It's been a life long journey for me as it has for everyone reading this blog today. The entry below is wrote by a woman named Amy Crumpton and when you read it.. I can guarantee it will make you reflect on your life.
The truth it brought out in me and will for many others is we are all striving for peace, love, happiness, joy and whatever else we can think of to make our life the heaven we have been looking for and what are we doing to have that life? Are we spending our life looking at others and anylzing what they are doing wrong? or are we looking deep within ourselves at our own inner judgments, are we taking time to love ourselves and love people for who they are instead of what we want them to be?
To many times I hear people say they can't have certain types of people in their lives and kick people out of their lives. 
Yes, of course we do not need to be in abusive situations and also we want to look at what is making us annoyed or upset about others in order to find peace within ourselves. In turn when we can love ourselves even in situations that push our buttons we will respond to others with love, compassion and understanding. This is because as is stated below we will be self-aware of what is going on within our own mind, body and soul...
Enjoy,
Jeremy
I was at a Bible Study in the mountains. We were discussing about forgiveness and loving others without exception. I was a little bored that day. Or maybe I was avoiding the fact that I often fail at loving others the way I would like to. Instead of listening, I looked out the full-length window and daydreamed about kayaking on the river below.
Suddenly, a woman across the room slapped her hand on the table in protest, “It’s impossible to love like Jesus! Some people are too hard to love!”
I sat up straight at the outburst and paid attention.
People around the room cautiously nodded their heads in agreement. Or maybe they just didn’t know what else to do with her honesty. Whatever the case, her pain stirred me.
I thought about my own angst with difficult people. How I desperately want to be kind and patient but lose my peaceful mojo when I least expect it. Someone will do something that flips a switch in me, causing me to get angry and judgmental.
I thought about my counseling clients, side-lined by anxiety, anger, and unforgiveness in their relationships, too. So many of us struggle with the same core issues.
I tried to refocus on the conversation at the table, but my mind was led in a different direction. I’m so grateful it was, because I learned something that day that is transforming my ability to love.
It started with my thinking about Byron Katie.
I love her teaching on The Work and have used it to solve many problems in my own life. I’ve learned from Katie that when I become anxious and controlling, there is inquiry to be made. It’s not the other person hurting me, but the stories I tell myself that cause me pain.
In a flash, my mind went to Debbie Ford and her book, The Dark Side of the Light Chasers. She says to imagine my chest as an energy center with numerous electrical outlets. Many of my outlets are covered with plastic protectors, but some of my outlets are open and exposed. Those in particular have a live current, just waiting to connect.
Therefore, getting anxious and angry about another person’s behavior is a sign that someone else is plugging into one of my open outlets. I feel a fiery connection and it can end up burning one or both of us.
But if I’m wise enough to seize it, I have the opportunity to look within, at my own baggage that normally stays zipped up and packed deep down, outside of my awareness.
In those transcendental moments, when I rise above my reactions and lower consciousness, I can clearly see my own fragile wiring. I get a sneak peak into what’s really igniting my fear and frustration. And it always has something to do with me more than the other person.
I call these buried treasures my “blind spots.” Because what I am blind to in myself, my negative encounters with others can help me see.
Jesus said it this way, “How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
As I added up the wisdom of Katie, Debbie, and Jesus, I suddenly realized why Jesus could love others the way I sometimes can’t.
Jesus had no blind spots. There wasn’t anything Jesus didn’t know about himself.
He was so good at loving others – all people, not because he drew on his divine power, but because he was a human without blind spots. Nothing was outside of his conscious awareness. Jesus had no plank in his eye.
If we saw Jesus as deity only, it would be impossible for us to mimic his behavior. But it’s not impossible, because he wasn’t drawing on supernatural power. Rather he was wholly self-aware. We can live and love like Jesus by simply knowing ourselves more fully.
For anyone wanting to live a more compassionate, humble, authentic, peaceful life, we can learn from Katie, Debbie and Jesus. We don’t have to avoid difficult people or strive and fake our way through loving them. Instead we can use our experiences to know ourselves in greater detail.
Then we can more easily accept and love others because actually, we are all more alike than different.
We don’t have to wait for people to stop pushing our buttons to love them. That would be a very long and tedious wait! Rather, we can embrace our sharp interactions with others and use them to get clear about who we are and better yet- who we want to become.
Source Article: Purpose Fairy

With all my love,

 About the Author: 

AMY CRUMPTON

AMY CRUMPTON IS A WIFE, MOM, COUNSELOR, COACH, COFFEE GAL, WINE PAL, PURPOSE-LIVER, HOPE-GIVER, JESUS-LOVER, AND REDISCOVER-ER OF ALL THINGS MESSY AND MEANINGFUL. SHE HOSTS A COMMUNITY OF MISFIT CHRIST-FOLLOWERS FINDING THEIR WAY HOME AT THE PURPOSE DWELLER PROJECT. YOU CAN DOWNLOAD HER FREE BOOK: “WHY AM I HERE? A SIMPLE PLAN FOR PURPOSE” ON HER BLOG.