I have spent a just over 20 years teaching people how to communicate whether it be with a customer via telephone, face to face or teaching leaders how to effectively communicate with their employees. I think we can all agree that the so called "soft skills" seem very easy on the surface but the truth is they can be very hard.
This article spells out how to handle Passive aggressive people. I personally think we all have a bit of passive aggressive tendencies in our lives and we can begin to heal them through practicing self awareness.
My recommendation to everyone is to spend time each day reflecting on your interactions. Did you ever feel like you were not being listened too? Did you ever feel that you were losing control of your day? Did you ever feel an overwhelming amount of anxiety swelling up in your body? These questions any many others are questions we need to ask ourselves each day... and then we look at those interactions we had with others and ponder on whether we could have been better at them. We can do this by asking the following questions:
1. Could I have handled that interaction better?
2. Did I try to control that individual and force them to see my point with manipulation?
3. Did I feel my self esteem lessened or hurt in that interaction?
4. How could I have built love and acceptance throughout my day?
5. Did I feel a lot of stress in my interactions instead of peace and love?
If you answer "YES" to any of these questions then relive these interactions in your mind and replay it in a way that brings it from a negative memory to a positive memory. With this you might say to yourself:
"Yes, this interaction was an opportunity and I am so grateful for it because now I can see a new way for me to communicate with people that brings a positive experience for both of us"
Most of us as we look at how we have missed an opportunity create a self talk of criticism and the above statement begins to change this mind set. When we change our mindset and change our self talk into a loving self talk instead of a critical self talk then I can guarantee you that you interactions with others will get better.
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